First dates can be tricky regardless of how you met your date,
but online daters can face an even more complicated situation. Usually when
going on a date with someone you’ve met online, you’re meeting for the first
time. It’s nearly a blind date, but sometimes you know a lot about the person
you’re meeting beforehand. In theory, this should be a factor working in your
favor. You already know you have enough of a connection with your date to
warrant asking them out. As any online dater will tell you, however, sometimes
the connection just isn’t there. Chances are, if the first date is bad enough,
both parties know it. So why spend money and time on something you hate? Since
rejection can be tough to deal with, here are some ways to let ‘em down easy.
Whether he’s downright rude, unattractive to you, or just not causing any
heart palpitations, there are easy ways to get out of a bad first date.
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Plans Ahead. If
you’re just meeting someone in person for the first time, a good idea is to
plan for a quick, low-pressure date. Try getting drinks, or going for a walk in
the park. The key is to allow yourself the flexibility to decide whether or not
you want to try and extend the date. If you find yourself really wanting to
ditch the dude at the end, say you have plans to meet friends somewhere else.
The less detailed you are, the more it sends a message that you just aren’t
into him. Be forewarned, though, if he doesn’t get the hint or gets pushy,
you’ll have to get more direct with him.
The “Emergency.” This tip
is a little more controversial and deceptive, but if you’re in a real pinch, it
can help. It’s simple. If you absolutely can’t stomach your date, head to the
restroom and grab your phone. Text a couple of friends who know you’re on a
date (you did tell someone you were going on a first date, right?) and ask
them to call you in ten minutes. Then, make sure your phone is set to ring and
head back out to your date. When your “emergency” phone call arrives, apologize
profusely to your date and head for the hills.
The Wordless Exit. To be employed in only
the most dire of circumstances, this tip is simple and straightforward. If your
date is openly discussing his love for beating puppies, bashing on the server,
admonishing you for your stance on abortion, or anything of the like, GO. RUN.
Do not say a word, do not hesitate. Life is too short for this type of thing.
Leave Butthead sitting right there and walk right on out.
Follow Up. Now,
after cutting off any date, depending on your level of guilt, you may have to
do some essplainin’ to the date that
you just ditched. Again, when you’re not having any fun on a date, both people
are usually pretty bored, so there may not be any more contact from that
person. However, if Miss Clingy didn’t get the message or Mr Overbearing is
still clogging your inbox with invites, you’re gonna have to get more
aggressive. Usually, being upfront and honest is a good tactic (yes, now is the
time to be entirely honest. Remember that you already tried letting them down
easy). A simple “I just don’t think we’re compatible, but best of luck in your
dating” is usually a good way to say goodbye. Once you’ve done that, don’t
respond to anything else they say. Anyone who hasn’t gotten it by now probably
has some serious boundary issues.
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